Elliot's always been aggressive in his love for other babies. pulls their hair while trying to kiss them, etc. today we stopped by my old office for a visit. my bosses daughter was there - she's a week older than Elliot. Elliot had their almost 4 year old son running away saying "don't let the wrestler get me!", and then he started pulling the little girls hair. then, he leaned over to kiss the girl but started pulling her hair again as well. i reach in, saying "gentle!", as usual and she starts shrieking. i manage to get his hands off her head and pull him away only to see perfect and deep teeth impressions in her cheek, up near her eye. (Elliot has 8 teeth, and i could see all of them on her skin.)
the indentations very slowly filled in, leaving a white fan shape where the marks were. it was so obviously a big bite. she cried for a long time. (and this is a baby with an older brother - she's used to rough-housing.)
i felt like crap - and still do. i apologized profusely and firmly scolded Elliot the second i saw it... but how do i handle this? i'm sure it will happen again. i hate being known as the mom with the brute, but that's what i seem to have - and now i have a BITING bully who hopefully means well - but who manages to make all kids (older and younger) cry when he's near.
ugh.
Wednesday, September 19, 2007
Tuesday, September 11, 2007
September 11, 2007
Elliot has this very annoying habit of slapping and grabbing at his head during mealtime, of course, this is generally only once his hands are full of whatever he's eating - avocado, cheese, yogurt, etc...
Last night, in the middle of the head slap routine, but he grabbed is hair and pulled and looked at me incredulously. He pointed at my head. I said "mommy's hair". He grabbed is hair again and I said "Elliot's hair"... he kept pulling and pointing and then he said "hay-yuh".
Too cute!!!!!
And he remembers today - it takes a few seconds, but he does pull is own hair when you ask him where it is!
Last night, in the middle of the head slap routine, but he grabbed is hair and pulled and looked at me incredulously. He pointed at my head. I said "mommy's hair". He grabbed is hair again and I said "Elliot's hair"... he kept pulling and pointing and then he said "hay-yuh".
Too cute!!!!!
And he remembers today - it takes a few seconds, but he does pull is own hair when you ask him where it is!
Monday, September 10, 2007
September 10, 2007
Ugh. I need to get off the computer. just watching my beautiful little boy play independently and seeing how i distract him with toys or asking him to fetch certain toys while i stare mindlessly at the computer. or read a book and basically ignore him.
i think of how much better it would be if i didn't have the blasted computer or electricity. how i would then be forced to enjoy my son. to play with him. to bond with him. to teach him things. i remember my mom playing with us on the floor, being creative, taking us for adventures. we lived in the woods. no power. she home schooled us for a couple of years. she was always there.
now i know i can't, and shouldn't, compare myself to my mom, but so much of the kind of mom i want to be comes from her - house comfortably cluttered but tidy and inviting. bread baking. homemade meas and goodies waiting for my father to come home.
i love being a mom, but again, i'm wondering why? i have this burning desire to be prego again and have another baby, but why? i'm obviously not enjoying the one i have. i just spent 30+ hours away from him and was miserable and couldn't wait to get home. but now i don't want him around me - i want to be online or curled up with a book or something. even last night when i got home, he crawled around on the floor while i went online. that's not right. my priorities are seriously skewed.
i want my damn energy and enthusiasm back!!!
i think of how much better it would be if i didn't have the blasted computer or electricity. how i would then be forced to enjoy my son. to play with him. to bond with him. to teach him things. i remember my mom playing with us on the floor, being creative, taking us for adventures. we lived in the woods. no power. she home schooled us for a couple of years. she was always there.
now i know i can't, and shouldn't, compare myself to my mom, but so much of the kind of mom i want to be comes from her - house comfortably cluttered but tidy and inviting. bread baking. homemade meas and goodies waiting for my father to come home.
i love being a mom, but again, i'm wondering why? i have this burning desire to be prego again and have another baby, but why? i'm obviously not enjoying the one i have. i just spent 30+ hours away from him and was miserable and couldn't wait to get home. but now i don't want him around me - i want to be online or curled up with a book or something. even last night when i got home, he crawled around on the floor while i went online. that's not right. my priorities are seriously skewed.
i want my damn energy and enthusiasm back!!!
Monday, September 3, 2007
September 3, 2007
I got a psychic to tell me about Elliot's future as well as predict the coming of more children. Keep in mind that all i told her was Elliot's name and birthday. We're planning to start trying again in July, but she doesn't know that.
This is what she had to say. (All typos are hers - not very professional, i agree. I fixed some, but there are lots.)
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"When it comes to your son Elliot, would tell you that he is someone who does listen well. I think that you will find that for him its all about respect. He really does treat his "elders' with the courtesy and respect that is expected from him and is always polite and well mannered. I think that you will find that you can take him pretty much anywhere and he is more than likely one of the better behaved children there. The only time you really find him being "bad' so to speak is if he is overtired, other wise probably one of the most relaxed and easy going persons there is.
he is someone who likes company, I think that he is capable of doing things on his own and being independent, but has a lot more fun if someone does it with him. You might find that he invents games that people can play with him, about who can get the marble closest to the door, or who can put the puzzle together fastest..etc He is just someone who likes to have fun, and wants someone to share the experience with.
I think that you will find that he has a great big heart. He is affectionate now, and will be so when he is older, but in a more thoughtful and verbal way. He will have no problems with telling you that he loves you both and how much you guys mean to him. I also think that he will have no problems with showing you that either. He is someone who when he is older and doing well, will find ways to make things easier on both you and your husband. Whether you ask for it, or not, he is going to be doing things to show his appreciation. I see him and his family a "constant" in your lives and very close knit and never live far.
When it comes to your son would tell you that i see him as someone who likes to weight all his options before committing to a life long commitment, someone who does have patience.
When it comes to career paths, I see him linked to more of an "army" type field, but also link him as pilot.
When it comes to marriage I see him closer to 24, they will have two boys of their own.
GIRL - JULY - so either birth month, conceive month or the month you find out in.
When it comes to your daughter would tell you that the first word that comes to mind is "strong willed" I think that even when she is really young you will notice that she can be a bit stubborn and demanding. Shes got a good head on her shoulders, not afraid to pursue what it is that she wants, and at times does not take no for an answer. She can push a bit, but always knows when someone has had enough and then will back down if its something that shes willing to give up on. I think that you might find that shes a bit argumentative, but its not usually towards you or your husband. She seems to enjoy the debate, does not take it as seriously as some people, and always is on top of her "game" so to speak. She's always got good direction and loves to sets goals for herself and it will be amazing to watch her determination and focus pan out.
I think that you will find that she loves horses, and would do really well if shes allowed to take riding lessons. I see this as being one of her passions along with swimming. She can be competitive and someone who likes to challenge herself to do better each time. Shes a bit of a perfectionist.
I think that you will find that deep beneath her otherwise "tough" exterior is one of the most amazing people you will see. She does have great compassion for life and the people in it, is always rooting of the "underdog' And does not let other people treat her or the people she cares about like crap. She is someone who is strong and has a heart of gold and would do anything to make sure that people are okay and doing well.
When it comes to career paths, I see her in a career as a lawyer.
When it comes to marriage I see her closer to 22, I see them with one boy and one girl of their own."
This is what she had to say. (All typos are hers - not very professional, i agree. I fixed some, but there are lots.)
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"When it comes to your son Elliot, would tell you that he is someone who does listen well. I think that you will find that for him its all about respect. He really does treat his "elders' with the courtesy and respect that is expected from him and is always polite and well mannered. I think that you will find that you can take him pretty much anywhere and he is more than likely one of the better behaved children there. The only time you really find him being "bad' so to speak is if he is overtired, other wise probably one of the most relaxed and easy going persons there is.
he is someone who likes company, I think that he is capable of doing things on his own and being independent, but has a lot more fun if someone does it with him. You might find that he invents games that people can play with him, about who can get the marble closest to the door, or who can put the puzzle together fastest..etc He is just someone who likes to have fun, and wants someone to share the experience with.
I think that you will find that he has a great big heart. He is affectionate now, and will be so when he is older, but in a more thoughtful and verbal way. He will have no problems with telling you that he loves you both and how much you guys mean to him. I also think that he will have no problems with showing you that either. He is someone who when he is older and doing well, will find ways to make things easier on both you and your husband. Whether you ask for it, or not, he is going to be doing things to show his appreciation. I see him and his family a "constant" in your lives and very close knit and never live far.
When it comes to your son would tell you that i see him as someone who likes to weight all his options before committing to a life long commitment, someone who does have patience.
When it comes to career paths, I see him linked to more of an "army" type field, but also link him as pilot.
When it comes to marriage I see him closer to 24, they will have two boys of their own.
GIRL - JULY - so either birth month, conceive month or the month you find out in.
When it comes to your daughter would tell you that the first word that comes to mind is "strong willed" I think that even when she is really young you will notice that she can be a bit stubborn and demanding. Shes got a good head on her shoulders, not afraid to pursue what it is that she wants, and at times does not take no for an answer. She can push a bit, but always knows when someone has had enough and then will back down if its something that shes willing to give up on. I think that you might find that shes a bit argumentative, but its not usually towards you or your husband. She seems to enjoy the debate, does not take it as seriously as some people, and always is on top of her "game" so to speak. She's always got good direction and loves to sets goals for herself and it will be amazing to watch her determination and focus pan out.
I think that you will find that she loves horses, and would do really well if shes allowed to take riding lessons. I see this as being one of her passions along with swimming. She can be competitive and someone who likes to challenge herself to do better each time. Shes a bit of a perfectionist.
I think that you will find that deep beneath her otherwise "tough" exterior is one of the most amazing people you will see. She does have great compassion for life and the people in it, is always rooting of the "underdog' And does not let other people treat her or the people she cares about like crap. She is someone who is strong and has a heart of gold and would do anything to make sure that people are okay and doing well.
When it comes to career paths, I see her in a career as a lawyer.
When it comes to marriage I see her closer to 22, I see them with one boy and one girl of their own."
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